Author Archives: emmi

13

Maybe I’m overreacting, maybe I’m not, but when I woke up this morning to news that a Malaysian Airlines plane got shot down over Ukraine, I lost it. I wasn’t that…emotionally involved when the first plane disappeared earlier this year but I guess after following the Israel-Gaza happenings so closely the past few days, reading up killings, looking at pictures of dead children, my heart was slowly disintegrating. Now this. There’s only so much my tiny heart can take.

I’m terrified for the people of Gaza who have to live in fear every single day, I want to go to tell the Israelis to grow the fuck up and stop bombing innocent people. They say they want to stop the Hamas but seriously, I don’t think bombing them is the way to go. Even rapists or murderers don’t get killed when they’re caught!

Now this fucking plane that got shot down?! Are you fucking serious, world?! Who the fuck are you to go around fucking bombing innocent people and shooting fucking planes down?! WHO THE FUCKING HELL ARE YOU?! Who gave you the fucking right to injure innocent people?!

“Oh, we just want to stop the Hamas but we accidentally killed innocent civilians in the process because we don’t know where to bomb exactly so we’re just throwing bombs everywhere.”

“Oops, was that a commercial plane we just hit with our missile? Oh, well, my bad.”

Fuck. I don’t know why I feel so strongly, feeling so saddened by all these. Maybe it’s because I live on this planet, I live among people who are stupid and have no soul, there are people here who have no conscience, who live for themselves with no regards for others. Why do some people think that they’re more superior than others, that there might be a possibility that they could get their way if they rebel and don’t back down?

It’s frustrating when groups of people don’t realize the sort of harm they’re doing to innocent bystanders when they go to war with each other. It’s fucking vile and disgusting and there is no reason why innocent people have to sacrifice their lives for the stupidity and cruelty of others.

12

Remember that one post where I was blabbering on and on about how I hated not having to do anything at work? Well, I let my mouth run off and guess what? I’ve been swamped with work the past few weeks ever since one of the Directors ran off with with a $50k cheque and my boss sent him packing (along with his secretary) so I’ve just been picking up the slack around here. It was quite rough at the start but it’s getting a tad better.

It’s been a good few months since I’ve had to rush to do anything so when my boss threw actual work at me (which needed to be done in 2 hours!) last Friday, I nearly had a meltdown cause I didn’t know how to get the things done and I was panicking (and I did cry. Just a bit though) but I got it all done in the end. I went home after that and had a nice long sleep that spanned for probably a good 16 hours.

It’s the fasting month and just to show you how unimpressed I am about this whole ‘not eating’ thing, I got my period the night before I was supposed to fast. Even though I can eat to my heart’s content, I haven’t been doing that cause I can’t bring myself to tell the people in the office that “no, I can’t fast cause I’m on my period” so I’ve been fasting in the office and they’ve had to put up with the noises that my tummy makes (how embarrassing).

Oh, yeah, IT’S JULY! 🙂 July means that I’ll be able to see Tom really soon! Like in 2-3 weeks soon! I’m so ready to bask in the cold, British air and eat fish and chips in the car and feed ducks in the parks and see Tom’s nieces and nephew and play with the cat and look at cows and sheep on the hills and bring the dingy out to sea ermahgerd I’m so excited to finally see Tom after 6 months!

I’ve also just received my pay so I’m gonna go book my flight now (I’M SO FLIPPING EXCITED!)!

11

I came across my old blog, that I haven’t been to in a while, and I started reading old posts and realized how negative they all were (seriously though, someone should have placed me under suicide watch…which reminds me – I should probably put my iPod on suicide watch, so much angsty music these days, my dear Apple product~). I felt a pang of pity reading what I had written a bit over a year ago. A bit bittersweet at the same time seeing where I am right now though. It’s always nice to be able to see the changes you’ve gone through over a period of time because you’re the last person to be able to see the changes in yourself.

Even though I’m feeling quite embarrassed (highly mortified more like it) going through my past posts, I feel like I should share a bit of it with you. Just be warned that my life was a tad…rough (not like ‘starving African children’ tough but more of a ‘young adults facing first world problems’ tough) back then. I think I was quite emotional (not that I’m not emotional now, I was just more vocal, more expressive, and more…emotional then) and had a lot of things to say about so many things, things that both concerned me and things that did not concern me at all.

31 jan 2012
This was posted on my old blog on the 31st of January 2012, at 1.03 PM. I laughed when I got to the end of that post, like how did I ever manage to be so funny then?! (Oh, I’m such a modest person~) I chose to show  you this post because you know what, I did actually find someone who would “take me away from this hideous place”. That same person who has his arms around me when I wake up in the morning, who kisses me until I wake up, who loves going on adventures with me (even though the adventure that I love to go on the most is a ‘shopping adventure’, which he isn’t too keen on most of the time), who went to the extent of getting another duvet to use in a SINGLE BED  because I kept stealing all the sheets through the night. What I didn’t get was the conquering of three-quarters of the bed cause he has a massive bum and he’ll push me to the wall, hence, me ending up with a mere quarter of the bed. What makes this post more interesting is the fact that I wrote it on the day that I started talking to him. (HEY, TOM! If you’re reading this, I’m talking about you! And yeah, YOU HAVE A MASSIVE BUM!)

feb 18 2013
feb 18 2013 (2)

This was posted on the 18th of February 2013, at 8.17PM. I feel really proud of myself after reading this. I’m usually not very good at putting thoughts onto paper but I think I did a damn good job at conveying my thoughts in this one. And it’s true, it does get better, and I do feel like a much happier person now. I’m not saying you completely forget about the person that you left behind, because you can’t completely forget about someone you’ve known so intimately for a good portion of your life. I don’t think of my ex-boyfriend as a person, I do think about the nice things that we shared before. As much as you don’t want to, you will. You’ll remember all the good memories, the positive things that happened before everything went downhill.

Yeah, of course I hate my ex-boyfriend (after all he had done – or not done – and all the crap that he’s left behind, I’ll be stupid to not hate him!), but its not the sort of hate that consumes me. I just dislike him very, very much.

Also, that post came from a very good place. I had just came back from seeing  Tom and had had a good few weeks with him, and was feeling very settled into my life. My mind wasn’t frazzled, I wasn’t typing out words blindly, I was at peace with myself, because I did find someone much better, much nicer, someone who loved me and was willing help fix me.

11 jan 2013

This was from the 11th of January 2013, 9.17PM. This is just one of the many, many, MANY ‘crazy’ posts that I had written. I was just very emotional then (really?! No fucking way, Emmi!) and I had a lot going on my plate and was quite possibly crying and feeling sad for days on end then. I think I hadn’t feel that awful since the Fall of Emmi back in 2010 (Fall of Emmi…that didn’t come off as funny as it did in my head) which I will touch on (soon, in another post. Maybe. Don’t hold me to that).

I didn’t really have anything to blog about. I just stumbled on my old blog and thought I would share some posts with you because I really do think I’ve changed a lot, even though it’s only been over a year ago. For starters, I don’t feel like committing suicide anymore and  that’s always good!

I probably should go do something productive in the office…like do actual work.

10

It’s so crazy that we’re already in the last month of June. I wasn’t even bloody prepared for June! I used to hate it when I realized how quickly time was passing cause I had so many things to do, I had so many deadlines, I had so many essays and projects to finish up, so many emails to reply to. Now, I don’t really have much on my hands. I love how I can take it day by day, not having to rush to places, not having to rush for deadlines. I know it’s not an ideal way to live life in Singapore but I like it.

Time passing by quickly also means that I’ll be able to see Tom really soon. I’ve been really excited about packing my luggage (I’m the most unorganized person in the Universe but there’s just this really good feeling you get from packing a luggage…like you know you’ll get to leave the awful place you’re at really soon! ^_^), excited about the thought of being able to parade around in sweaters and wooly tights (Singapore’s weather’s like “sweaters?! HELL NAW!”), and excited about being able  to go to the parks and feed flippping ducks and seagulls!

Work has been a teeny bit better. I’ve got tons more work to do now that they’ve fired one of the Directors of the company along with his secretary (he ran off with a $50k cheque! Why would you do something so stupid like that?!) so I’ve had to pick up the slack around here. I’m not complaining, I mean, I’m absolutely happy that I have actual work to do now. It’s just that I would much rather be in the North of Ireland than here~

I’ve just had lunch and I need to pee so bad but I can’t cause there are maggots crawling all over the floor in the washroom so I ain’t having any of that. I’ve planned on heading into town after work later because I want to spend more money that I don’t have on things that I absolutely don’t need (it’s a flipping gorgeous romper from F21 and I can’t say no).

I’ll be off now for I have a list of things to do (I actually do have a list) today but I’m gonna start by going on Tumblr for maybe 5 minutes (or 3 hours) depending on my mood.

9

The past week has been amazing mostly due to the fact that I’ve ventured out of my lady-cave (oh how vile and suggestive that sounds, doesn’t it? I am merely  trying to convey the female version of a man-cave but that came out all wrong) and socialized. I made plans with my friends, I made the effort to look nice and I didn’t call them up at the last minute to bail. And I had a lovely time. I should perhaps make more of an effort to interact with civilization seeing how I’m enjoying it a lot.

Also, Tom and I have made plans for me to visit him next month, which is lovely because I’ve not seen him for a good 5 months and that is no way to live really. It hasn’t been set in stone but I’m about 98% sure that I’ll get to spend a bit of the summer with him. It’s always nice to be in the UK in summer when temperatures aren’t in the range of ‘fucking hell this weather is insane I’m staying in’. Summer in the UK also means that I MIGHT not have to pile on more than 2 layers which is great!

I know (from experience) that visiting for short periods of time usually ends in a pool of tears (I cry cause I don’t wanna go home and Tom becomes a wimp and starts crying, too. It’s just a big dramatic mess) and me telling him “I don’t really mind being an illegal immigrant here. JUST LET ME STAY!” But he’ll shoo me into the plane and off I go to Singapore (ie. Ching Chong Land as Tom lovingly calls it).

Ching Chong Land hasn’t been too awful lately. Besides the fact that the temperature is at a steady 32 degrees average even when it’s bloomin’ raining cows, it isn’t all too bad. I met some friends in the past week, I spent money like water on things that I didn’t need but wanted, I ate too much to give a flying fuck, and I met an old friend from years back who said I look much happier now. I don’t know why it means so much to me when people tell me that I look happy, maybe I feel like I need someone, something, to validate the happiness in my life. But I AM happy (even though I’m a kajillion miles away from Tom) and I’m glad that even though I have a lot of depressing internal monologues and even though I seem to be losing it every few days, I’m still able to deal with life and be happy with it.

On a less serious note, I can feel age catching up with me. I may be only 24 but bedtimes at 10pm show otherwise. I used to be able to pull all-nighters and still have energy left to go to work for 10 hours before coming home to die on my bed. When I try to stay up now, it’s usually never past 1am and that’s pretty pathetic if I do say so myself.

I’m currently at work while writing out this post because there’s only so much of ‘doing nothing’ I can do. My eyes are burning cause I’ve been staring at this computer screen for a good 6 hours now. I should go rest my eyes…in the bathroom…maybe have a nap, I don’t know. The possibilities are endless.

8

Tom and I talk about religion a lot – me being a Muslim by default coming from a Muslim family and him…believing in nothing and everything, a free-thinker. I may be a Muslim but I’m not religious, I’m not a devout Muslim who prays 5 times a day or eats only what she’s supposed to. I don’t believe in a God, though I do believe in a higher power. I feel that people shouldn’t be restricted by religion, that they should live by good morals, do things because you know it’s the right thing to do and not because you have to, cause the Quran says so. Even so, I have no qualms about marrying a non-Muslim.

Which is why, in this day and age, when I come across websites that just come off as vile, I can’t help but to feel…sad. I stumbled upon a site while I was Googling inter-religious marriages and there was a post that were somewhere along the lines of “I’m Muslim and my boyfriend’s Christian. We’re planning to get married and willing too take the relationship further but don’t know how to work the religious differences. What should we do?” And after reading that, I thought “Oh, that’s nice, they’re willing to make it work” but the comments that came after that…wow.

“There is no way to “work” the difference. A Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man. If he accepts Islam wholeheartedly then you can marry him. Otherwise, there is no future between the two of you. You should not have gotten involved with him in the first place. I hope other Muslims will be warned and don’t get involved in these types of haram situations.”

“This kind of relationship only brings deep suffering and not just for the couple, once they have children, they are the main sufferers. You just said it “madly in love”, that is the first step for suffering, I am sorry to tell you this but this kind of love is infatuation, is not real love, and when you are at the point to go further, scares me, do you realized how much you can loose with this relationship? Please, think about it and be honest between you two, this will affect both of your roots and after the infatuation is gone, lots of suffering will come.”

“”God created love”. This is popular modern Christian ideology, completely false and created by deviant Christians who have raised Issa (pbuh) to the level of divinity. The children won’t be choosing anything, actually they would end up chossing nothing, be confused & and probably end up atheist because they are disillusioned by religion. Problems come in when parents live through their children & are adamant on forcing their opinions on children either by force, emotional blackmail or manipulation.”

It’s disgusting. It might be due to me being a romantic at heart, but seriously, the comments were all so vile. Do feelings not matter anymore? Does anyone care about marrying someone they love? Never, ever get carried away by religion like that! You shouldn’t have to live life regretting that you’ve lost the perfect partner in the name of religion! I know people who are married, who don’t share the same beliefs. I have seen marriages work out just fine when the wife’s a Muslim and the husband’s a Christian.

Religion is supposed to be “beautiful” and “peaceful” but dare I say, there is absolutely nothing beautiful about telling someone they can’t love whoever the fuck they want to. I’m just annoyed, probably from my own internal arguments and the fact that my parents are strict Muslims, not allowing me to date (I did anyway), telling me that I can only marry another Muslim. Well, you know what? GOD MADE ME THIS WAY! He made me in a way that I would only fall in love with someone who is not Muslim. He made me who I am. Muslims believe in qada and qadar, so I’m assuming God must have known that I was gonna turn out this way and guess what? That didn’t stop him from making me.

I’m very frustrated right now, knowing that there are people out there who think they have the right to tell people what to do. It’s 2014, shouldn’t we all be more open and more accepting of everyone else? Don’t go around preaching cause you just sound like an outright asshole. If 2 people “can’t” be married but want to, let them fucking get married! What is so wrong about having 2 people of different religious beliefs get married?! If people want to embrace Islam, they will! If people want to embrace Christianity, they will! There really is no point to someone converting unwillingly, just doing it to get married.

If God had wanted a Muslim to only marry a Muslim, or a Christian to marry another Christian, does it not seem that God only wants Muslims to get married and that marriage is only exclusive to them? Or just Christians? Or any other religion for that matter. Marriage isn’t between a Muslim and a Muslim (etc), it’s between two people.

It’s all such a crazy concept to me. I can’t accept the fact that mere strangers have the right to tell you what to do with your fucking life. Do whatever the fuck you want with it! It’s yours! Go marry a damn cow if you want to!

7

I’m feeling very overwhelmed today, so overwhelmed that I couldn’t even nod off in the bus to work (which I usually do, which I SHOULD have done today considering the mere 4 hours of sleep that I had). I kept thinking about money – will I have enough soon to get myself a plane ticket to see Tom? Will I have enough to last me until I get my pay next? Will I be able to save enough each month? I kept thinking about work – how am I suppose to last another few months at this job that I hate? Will I be able to pull through and care about things I don’t care about for much longer? I thought about my mum – how much I hate her (this has nothing to do with teenage angst. I’m 24, it’s a much bigger issue than that) and how I’m dying to leave. I don’t have any sort of relationship with her, with any of my family members. We don’t talk, we don’t go out to do anything together, it feels like a bunch of strangers living under one roof.

I then thought about how happy I was living with Tom. How his family bought me gifts for my birthday, for Christmas, something my own family never cared about doing, which probably led to me not giving a single fuck when my birthday came around. I thought about how they always thought about me, bought me things when they were out, saying “oh, we saw this and thought you would like it so we got it for you!” I thought about those mornings I woke up with Tom next to me and how I never woke up angry or feeling negative about the day. I remembered how his family always made me laugh, made me feel included, made me feel like I was a part of their small, warm family unit.

I’ve never felt that sort of love here. Maybe I have, but maybe I was too young to notice. It’s frustrating when your parents treat you like a kid when you’re clearly a fucking adult. I still get texts at 9PM, telling me to come home cause it’s late. I have no privacy, no sort or form of respect from anyone. I just feel so angry all the time, and sad at the same time. Sad because I have to face all these people I hate every day when I could be somewhere else with people who actually want me around.

I’ve been slipping in and out of my moods. I’ve started to get anxious again, panicky. I haven’t been that way in a while but it’s all coming back. I feel like the light at the end of the tunnel is a bit too far away right now. I don’t know what’s going to happen in the next few months and it scares me, it scares me that I might still be here then. I hate the uncertainty, I hate all these toxic people in my life, I can feel myself losing a grip on things again and I’ve taken so long to get better (sort of), I just don’t want to slip and fall into everything that happened before.